Hello loves! I am so happy to have many of you like my last post Q&A! I did not get any questions, but I appreciate you reading and liking, and if anything pops up, still ask and I will do that post later on.
Now onto the topic of the day…
Self-love. I want to talk about self-love. This issue has been coming up in my own life recently, and with Valentines Day approaching, I thought it would be an excellent topic to touch on.
Self-love. This always has been and still is, ALMOST a foreign concept to me. I have not grown up loving myself or my body. Although I am getting better with practicing acts of self-love, it truly is still something that I struggle with and really need to work on.
As most of you know, I have suffered from the eating disorder Anorexia Nervosa. During these incredibly challenging 6 years of my life, I don’t even think that I could tell you the definition of self-love, let alone apply it to myself. Everything about me was wrong: my size, my weight, my shape, my hair, my skin, and hell, my very existence! I was so critical of myself. Nothing was the way I wanted it – I wasn’t perfect – so I just was NOT worth loving.
Now, I have been blessed with a boyfriend who helps me to see every day that I am worth it – that I AM loveable. Without him, I wouldn’t be as far along as I am. However, I am absolutely, 100% NOT saying that a boyfriend will fix your problems and help you to love yourself – only you can do that. But others CAN help you along on the journey to self-love. They can love you when you don’t love yourself, and help you to see that you are deserving, worthy, and important – because you are!
Valentines Day is not about whether or not you have a boyfriend, partner, or husband. It is about celebrating love and communicating that love you have to those important people in your life. This INCLUDES YOURSELF. You are first, and foremost bound to the relationship you have with yourself. After all, you can’t truly give whole-heartedly to others without giving to and loving yourself first. Self-love isn’t always easy – in fact, its pretty damn hard. But if you don’t love yourself, not only are you neglecting the wonderful body and soul that God blessed you with, but you are putting a strain on the relationship that you have with others because you do not think that you SHOULD be loved. This thinking is terribly flawed. We all deserve love, and most importantly, we deserve it from ourselves first. When we love ourselves, we are letting others love us, too.
So, this Valentines Day, do not stress over whether or not you have that ‘special someone’ to celebrate with. Because guess what? That special someone is always YOU first. So go out an buy yourself some chocolate – you deserve it! And then tell your family and friends how much you love and appreciate them. There are all different kinds of love, and no one kind of love is better than the other.
Much love always,