Hello loves! I hope the week is treating you well. I had a good day today, I took an exam for my summer class which I’m feeling pretty good about, and its kind of like the start to my weekend so I am excited for that!
Today I want to talk a little bit about mistakes…you know, all of the things that we feel we do wrong and the faults that we have or make, probably daily (at least I know that I make some sort of mistakes pretty much every day). Mistakes are something that I hate. I hate making them, I hate the guilt I feel, and those loud, lingering thoughts of “if only I would have done it this way…” or more commonly, “WHY did I DO that??”
This sounds kind of like my life story – haha! In all seriousness though, here’s the thing, we need to make mistakes. We do not achieve success by success, we gain success by failure. Mistakes are okay and perfectly normal, we just need to choose if we are going to learn from them or not.
One of the biggest and best mistakes of my life was about 5 years ago. I was a senior heading off to college, and for the life of me I just could not choose which college I wanted to go to. I had my heart set on one in particular, but fear held me back. Instead of going to my dream college at the time, I chose another school that is about 15 minutes away from where I live. I did not want to commute from home, so I did dorm there. Why did I choose this school if it wasn’t my favorite? A lot of reasons, the main one being that it was safe. Safe because I was very close to home if I wanted to go home. Safe because my boyfriend at the time was staying local and going to a community college, and I was afraid of being away from him since we had dated for about 2-3 years. Safe because I was familiar with this college. I grew up going to Mass there sometimes on Sundays. I even made my confirmation at that church. I had other friends going there, so I chose this school, one that I really did not want to go to, for all of the reasons above. I used to regret it. I even tried to transfer to my top choice for my sophomore year, that didn’t work out. I am over it now, God had another plan for me, but at the time of all of this I was thinking “what did I do? what am I doing? I really made a mistake!”
Reflecting back on my first year of college, I can see now that it may have looked like one giant mistake at the time, but I have grown and learned from the experience. When I first started my college career at the school I ended up choosing to attend, my major was theatre. At that time, I thought that theatre was the only thing I would ever be happy doing. Boy, was I wrong. If I did not experience the anxiety and turmoil that I was feeling over my selected major my freshmen year, I wouldn’t have discovered what I actually want to do, which is helping people. Don’t get me wrong, I think there is a way that every profession out there helps others, but theatre wasn’t it for me. I would lie in bed at night wondering what I was going to do after I graduated. Would I move to NYC and try to make it as an actor? I just couldn’t see myself doing that. I couldn’t see it at all. Being unhappy my first year of college, as unfortunate as that was, allowed me to really discover what I want to do with my life and where I want to be. I was testing the waters. I love acting, it has always been a passion of mine. If I did not start out as a theatre major, maybe I would have wondered if that was really for me. Since I did start out majoring in theatre right in the beginning, I was able to quickly realize that this was NOT for me, and I could go on to discover my true calling.
I learned another lesson from my first year of college: happiness does not come from other people. I thought since I was close in proximity to my boyfriend at the time, everything would be great. Long story short, it ended up a disaster. It did not work out between us, and as you can imagine I was then really kicking myself for choosing this school. I did learn an important lesson though: heart break happens, and life still moves on. I felt like my life was crumbling and falling apart at the time. But you know what? If that did not happen, I would have never learned how strong and resilient I am and how I do not need another person to complete me or make me happy. True happiness comes from within, and while this is still something that I am working on, I was able to learn this truth through that bump in the road.
So, mistakes. Yeah, they suck sometimes. But if you take anything away from this post, I hope you realize that mistakes are, actually, a good thing…especially if you learn from them! If we did not make any mistakes, that would mean that we must be perfect, and perfect is boring. But beyond that, mistakes allow us to grow as individuals, they allow us to better ourselves to become the best selves that we can be.
Tell Me: What is your best mistake? Are there any mistakes that you have made that you’ve learned from? I would love to hear from you!