Hello loves! Well, this is the first post that I am writing in over a week, it feels like such a long time! I have been busy with my school work, but as of right now I am on spring break! So yes, I am in a pretty good mood for this reason alone. I finished up my last class for the week today, and on Monday I head south on vacation for 4 days or so…yippee!
Anyways, my school life is not what this post today is about. What I want to talk about today are friends.
Let me start off by saying I do not have a lot of friends. This is a true statement, and while many people may find this sad, I find it to be perfect the way it is. You see, I do not have hundreds of friends on facebook, and lets just say that if I were to have a party I would not have the problem of needing to figure out who to cut off my list. Because lets face it, we all know people who have done this if we haven’t done it ourselves. I have a handful of very close friends, and I love each and every one of them for different reasons. Some of my closest friends are actually those with whom I met in treatment facilities for my eating disorder. We are such good friends because we share something in common…Yes, we have eating disorders, but more importantly we share recovery.
Yesterday I met up with one of my best friends who I met several years ago during my first stay in treatment. We did something very therapeutic (at least I thought of it that way) and made recovery bracelets. I really enjoyed working on this activity with her! As we sat in Barnes and Noble with our beads everywhere, I was just so appreciative to have this time with her. No matter how bad my social anxiety or OCD thoughts are before I meet up with one of my friends, it always ends up being a wonderful time and I am always so glad that I went. One of the benefits to having friends from treatment is that they know the REAL you. They know your all of your strengths and weaknesses, and they see your true colors. My best friend outside of treatment knows me very well, and we will always be best friends and I will always love and care about her, but my good friends from treatment know me on a level that no one else does, and that is very special. The connections that you make with those who you share similar struggles with are different from any other connection, and different in a good way. My friend and I have a set of hidden boundaries (and I say hidden because we never have to talk about it) that we abide by and do not cross as to not trigger the other person. However, we can still be open and honest with each other about whatever is going on in our lives. Does this make sense? I hope so!
Making recovery bracelets was something that I believe strengthened our friendship during that time. We both struggle with our eating disorders and other diagnoses at times, but in that moment we were choosing self-care. We were choosing to focus on recovery. We were using our energy for the positive.
I love each and every one of my friends because I feel like I can just relax and be me, and that alone is and will always be enough.
Tell Me: What are your thoughts on this? Why do you love your friends? Do you have treatment friends or friends who share similar experiences with you? I would love to hear from you!