Good morning loves. So today I want to talk a little bit about body image. It is something that I have been struggling with a great deal lately, and I thought it would be helpful to create a post on my current struggles with body image and include some tips and tricks that I have learned over the years on how to combat bad body image.
It flared up yesterday. I had an appointment with my nutritionist and I found out that I have maintained my weight since the last time I saw her. Now, this is a good thing, right? I should not be upset over this…but the fact is, a part of me WAS upset, very upset. Maintaining weight is almost like a foreign concept to me. Something that I am not used to doing and an idea that I am still trying to wrap my head around. Luckily, I could process some of this with my psychologist afterwards in my therapy appointment. I was upset and anxious because right after this appointment I had an obligation to attend a close friend of mine’s grandparent’s 60th anniversary party. I wanted to see my friend, but my body image was so awful that I just did not feel up to doing anything. Not to mention my social anxiety has been through the roof lately presenting me with even more challenges. Nonetheless, I worked up all of my courage and strength to go. There were a few tactics I used to make myself feel more confident and okay with my body upon attending this event.
- Something that we worked on in therapy yesterday was replacing negative, and just plain mean statements about myself with a more positive affirmation. So, whenever I started to hear negative voices in my head picking apart my body, I repeated to myself (in my head, but if you want to say it out loud that’s fine, too) ‘ Tell the negative committee that meets in your head to sit down and shut up.’ Just saying this phrase to myself helped me to redirect my thoughts.
- Wear something that is comfortable and that makes you feel good about your body…something flattering and something that fits your body well. Before going to the party, I put on a pair of pants that are super comfortable and cute – from anthropology. I like the way they fit and they do not make me feel too exposed, so that boosted my confidence a little bit!
- Focus on parts of your body that you do, in fact, like or feel okay about. For example, do your hair in your favorite hairstyle or put on makeup to emphasize the lovely features on your beautiful face! Yesterday I was having a decent hair day and felt the best about that part of my appearance, so I concentrated more on that than any other part of my body.
- Do not compare yourself to others! This is a huge problem for me and something that I am constantly doing. Nothing good will come from comparing, however, so it is important to recognize when you are doing it and tell yourself to stop! You are beautiful the way you are and there is no one else like you. Embrace everything about yourself-including your flaws. They are what make you the unique and special person that you are.
So those are a few of my tips on how to deal with poor body image. I hope this post was an interesting read and helpful for all of you out there struggling with body image. Remember that you are so beautiful and you don’t need to change your appearance to feel good about yourself. You are perfect just as you are.
Tell me: what are your thoughts on body image? Do any of you struggle with body image? If so, how do you deal with it? I would love to hear any tips that you guys have on how to combat bad body image! Please share if you have any thoughts or suggestions on the subject!